My first marriage lasted 23 years when we split up. Of course I ignored red flags when we dated because I was young and dumb and in love. Our marriage wasn't all bad. Except she liked to accuse me of cheating. In hindsight I think in order to justify her cheating. Because even though I had plenty of chances to do so. I didn't. The last half of our marriage was more like a marriage in name only. When we split she had been cheating with a guy who was a complete loser. When we split he didn't have a job. Was a convicted felon and a heroin addict. It's like how did she see that as an improvement was beyond me. After all I had been tempted to cheat. And if I had I would have wanted to upgrade. But we got divorced and for the first months I struggled with my emotions. I was raised up going to church and even when I wasn't going I still prayed every day. And would ask God to forgive me. But one night after praying I heard a voice in my head saying. " Pray for her." I knew that it was God telling me to pray for my ex wife. Which of course I didn't want to. But I did it anyway. And at first I didn't feel any different. But over time I did have a sense of peace come over me. God a little while later gave me a vision of myself a little while later. In the vision I was a small donkey loaded down with a load of bricks. And every time I prayed he took a brick away. That's why I didn't feel any different at first. Because it was just a brick. But brick by brick my burden got lighter. That's why forgiveness is important. Forgiveness is letting go of your pain and hurt so you can have peace in your life.