Pain changed my dna. Walls fortified. Trust never restored but erased. #truestory June 2, 2011 Betrayal is a destructive force that leaves many ruins in its path. Betrayal changes everything. Relationships and all those affected will never be the same again. The Damage Done can be irreparable. Trust is lost. Wounds run deep. Anger persists. Hearts are broken. Self-protective walls are erected. Pain is long and lasting. And we wonder, " can we ever trust again? can trust ever be restored? do wounds ever heal? Will anger cease to exist? Can Hearts be repaired? Will the self-protective walls ever come down? Does the pain ever go away?!". Not only does betrayal change relationships, it changes individuals. Something happens inside of them. They might find it difficult to ever trust again. They might be more guarded and protective of themselves for fear of being vulnerable again. They might learn to be more disturbing and less naive. They're expectations of others may change. They may reflect on their own role and responsibilities in the relationship and what went wrong. They might try to understand, empathize, and forgive. They may be motivated to grow from the experience and learn more about themselves and others. The pain of betrayal is very real and has a significant impact on the lives of all those who have experienced it. It is one of those painful life experiences that the power to change people's hearts and lives forever. If you have ever been betrayed you cannot change what has happened to you or make the pain go away. You need time to grieve and feel angry. You need time to be comforted and encouraged. You also need time to restore your faith in yourself and others. Betrayal hurts and there's no vast and easy way to heal from its effects. It takes more than time. It takes a heart that will not harden. It takes a commitment to believe in others again. Relationships do change as a result of betrayal But ultimately how it changes you is what matters the most! Me